At first, I chose to be a bit ignorant with the recent event of legalization of same sex marriage. I mean, it is not my problem. Not even happen in my country. I have to admit a part of me are happy and excited seeing the happy faces of the couples who have been struggling to make it happen. By the time it gained momentum, the internet exploded with opinions revolving about human rights and same sex marriage. Some of them bothers me. My mind argues for both sides. Since I can not stop it and it is kind of distracting, I decide to write them all.
Therefore, before you continue reading this, please bear these in mind, there is no intention to judge anyone as a person nor to offend people as a human being. If you find it it offensive, please do remember we might have different life standard, so you do not have to be offended with them because we might value things using different scale. I am trying as much as I can to be as open mind as I can be. There is possibility my opinion is absolutely wrong. My opinions are written after hearing one of U.S. and England radio, reading some international and national news article, and browsing christian websites both whom support and against same sex marriage. I did also read some websites advocate same sex marriage. I am Christian since I was a child, so if you find my opinions are old fashioned or you consider me conservative, I do not mind. I do believe every creation comes from God, including human being and so if you believe in principal that human race came from a random chance of the right mixture in the right measure at the right time, we are obviously on different side. I do not have any background in psychology nor theology so this writing is not intended to be any scientific reference or even reference to judge things, that is if you want to judge :D
To make it clear from the beginning, I myself am against the idea of same sex marriage. Nevertheless, I do not hate them as person. Disagree does not always mean hate. I think it makes sense if you give them legal rights to be recognized as a family especially when they decide to adopt a child but not in terms of a marriage. But then again, it comes back to what is your basic principle in your life. If you put God`s law in the centre, it is a black and white matter. If you put human`s law, which obviously has some flaws, then it will become all grey.
Marriage in the view of Christian only involves man and woman. God makes human body as it is to compliment each other. Marriage is not talking about legalized sex but more than that an institution of man and woman build on God`s love. And while, we are in this matter, we also hear people argue that as long as they love each other, what is wrong with same sex marriage then? Is not Jesus Christ promoting love towards each other? Now let us stop there and think first, which love are we talking about? Marriage should be based on God`s love. As you know, God`s love is not erotic, it is agape. It is easy to say if getting married is all about to have sex legally, then it is wrong. Getting married with someone does not mean you justify your lust over someone. Then, what if both same sex parties feel love so deep about each other. What if it is not about lust? What if they also believe in God but feel affection so deep towards each other? The question is, `is it feeling affection the same with love? Some people use this deep affection to justify their pedophile or incest act, does this mean love? Some people feel deep affection towards money, wealth or other things in this world, they will do anything to have them, does this really mean love? Feeling is not the same as love.In some case, we might be trapped with being unable to differ between lust and love.
Again, if we believe in God and claim everything we do is to please God, then, it will be obvious we have to understand what God considers right and what God considers wrong. As God words, we believe as Christians, written in The Bible, then it is obvious that God condemns same sex union. Strictly speaking, same sex union is a sin. Now, if we do believe in God and love Him, do not we want to obey Him including stop doing things He does not like, no matter how painful actually we feel. We have strong urge to do certain type of things we know it is sin, yet we have choice to surrender and consumed by it or to struggle even if it takes a lifetime struggle.
...to be continued
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